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Sep 21, 2026

I like knowing that there is a right answer and all I have to do is find it.

There’s something comforting about certainty. If I can gather enough information, ask enough people and think hard enough, surely I’ll eventually arrive at the answer. No mistakes.

Except life has an irritating habit of not working that way.

Of course, some things are right or wrong. There are facts we can establish, evidence we should pay attention to and people whose expertise should carry more weight than our opinions. This isn’t an argument for treating every choice as subjective simply because we would prefer a different answer. The reality is that many of the decisions that shape our lives don’t come with an answer key.

Should I take the opportunity or stay where I am? Should I pursue the thing I’m good at or the thing I’m curious about? Should I push harder or slow down? Is this the right kind of work for me? What does success look like at this stage of my life?

Those questions can send us searching. We research. We make lists. We ask people we trust. We look at what others have done and try to work out which choice is the right one. All of that can help.

Sometimes I wonder whether we keep searching because we’re hoping the right answer, the sure thing, the choice we can’t possibly regret will eventually appear.

Choosing for ourselves asks something more of us. We have to decide what matters, accept that we cannot know exactly how things will unfold and take some responsibility for the direction we choose. Perhaps that’s why the question itself matters so much.

Instead of always asking “What’s the right thing to do?”, what happens if we also ask “What’s right for me?”

That small addition changes the question. It asks us to bring ourselves into the decision. It also asks something more difficult - it asks us to trust ourselves.

What matters to me here? What am I trying to create? What gives me energy and what consistently drains it? Which choice allows me to use more of what I do well? What am I willing to give up?

Knowing ourselves doesn’t magically produce an answer. We can know ourselves very well and still be uncertain, get things wrong or make a choice that looks very different with hindsight. Self-knowledge isn’t a crystal ball. But it can give us another source of vital information.

We can still seek advice, examine the evidence, learn from other people and consider the consequences. Alongside all of that external information, we can include what we know about ourselves.

And sometimes that may mean choosing something that isn’t obviously the best choice on paper. It may mean turning down an opportunity other people would leap at, defining success differently or taking a path that requires a little more explanation.

That doesn’t automatically make the choice right either. But at least it is a choice we have made consciously, rather than one we inherited from somebody else’s idea of what we should want.

There isn’t always one right answer waiting to be found. Sometimes there are several good possibilities, and the work is deciding which one fits the life you want to live and the person you know yourself to be.

So keep asking questions. Gather information. Listen to people you trust. Think carefully about the consequences. Then make sure you include yourself in the equation.

Because sometimes the most useful question isn’t simply:

What’s right?

It’s:

What’s right for me?