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Jul 6, 2026

Whose Future Have You Been Living?

When we're young, people ask us what we want to be when we grow up. There's usually a prescribed range of answers: doctor. lawyer, teacher, accountant. The question sounds innocent enough, but hidden inside that question is a problem. What if none of those answers were ever really yours?

Most of the time it comes from people who love us and genuinely want the best for us. They want us to have a life that is safe and secure - at least what secure looks like to them. Before we know ourselves, we begin learning what success is supposed to look like. Expectations of families, schools, communities, and now with social media, the world at large, surround us. Slowly, almost without noticing, we begin measuring ourselves against a picture that somebody else painted.

That isn't necessarily wrong. Many people do find work they enjoy through those expectations. Many discover opportunities they might never have found otherwise.The problem is not that people hoped something good for us. The problem is that very few of us were also encouraged to become deeply curious about ourselves.

What came naturally to us? What gave us energy? What kinds of problems did we love solving? What did we find ourselves doing even when no one asked us to? For some people, those questions were never really part of the conversation. So we became very good at answering everyone else's questions while never asking our own.

This is one of the quieter forms of Noise. Unlike criticism or self-doubt, it rarely feels negative. In fact, it often sounds like encouragement. "You'd make a wonderful doctor." "You've always been good with numbers." "You'll have so many opportunities if you choose this path."

The voices aren't trying to drown out our Music. They're trying to protect us. That's what makes this kind of Noise so difficult to recognize. Sometimes the loudest Noise in our lives arrives wrapped in love.

Listening for your Music isn't about rejecting the people who helped shape you. It's about making sure that somewhere along the way, your own voice also has a chance to be heard.

Perhaps that's the real invitation. Not to abandon the life you've built. Not to question every decision you've ever made. Simply to ask: Where did my own Music have a chance to speak?

Because sometimes the future we've been living isn't wrong; it's just incomplete. And perhaps your Music still has something to say.